I got so much done with the help of people who love me.

I tapped in, with myself first then my Day Ones and put things in motion that make my heart smile. :::Come get in my business for a second, I think it could be helpful to some :::

In the last two years (hell much longer than that but that’s the time stamp) I’ve had major losses that took the wind out of my sails. I only did things that made it to my calendar, and I didn’t process anything. Losing people, you love to gun violence sits in a different place than when disease hits. Losing people that you skewed so much of your life trying to get them to tap into their awesomeness took me DOWN.

INSTEAD of working through the grief with a professional I went on autopilot. Loaded up the calendar and when I’m not busy… scroll. I ate up time and took on so much energy on these apps because other people’s joy makes me feel good… except folks stopped sharing joy and got to fussing. So there I was already sad, then getting mad WITH people about their stuff. Doing Nothing.

I went through a program to learn new ways to serve others and it was in that program that the concept of choices was planted. Not that I didn’t understand choices, but it expanded my perspective both for my own life and how I can frame the things that the people I care about endure and not feel it all like the empath I am.

I took the apps off my phone. I checked in on my people’s posts periodically, but I got the scroll out my life. I started texting people directly and actually talking to my friends. Once that fog was lifted, I started paying attention to the things I wanted to accomplish and got my first sale at the vintage fashion business I started a year ago. Then I found suppliers for sustainable brands to add to my store and do the things that have been on my heart.

This all took place in the Fall of 2023, yet I still haven’t turned on the notifications for my social media. I probably need to take another break as I go deeper into my writing journey, but I took back control. I was able to start to choose when and what I digest. That freedom helped me manage my involvement in things and have time to determine if I’m making the healthiest choice for my mental health. That makes me better in all of my relationships simply because it creates room for me to improve.

Give yourself room to grow.

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